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Condemnation or Love –

I have been thinking lately about how certain people have been treated mistreated by the “church”. There is one group in particular, the gay community, who have been targeted and demeaned by those who proclaim to know and Love God. I have a confession: I was one of those people who condemned the gay community as those going to hell because their lifestyle is contrary to what the Bible teaches. However, recently, God has been giving me more of HIS HEART towards ALL MANKIND and that is HIS HEART OF LOVE.

I began thinking, “How can I minister to the gay community, the love of God?” or How can I minister to the woman or man who sells their body for sex or drugs?” “How will I minister to the alcoholic who curses God every chance he or she gets?” How Lord can I show these people YOUR LOVE?

My heart has taken a turn to LOVE and away from CONDEMNATION. I looked into the eyes of a homosexual man, on Thursday, and at first, I was put off by his obvious female gestures, talk and posture, but then I heard him say something that forever changed my perspective about the gay community…..”We hurt just like anybody else”. Now, I know everybody has a point in their life where they hurt, emotionally, but is it the job of the Christian to add more hurt to the hurting?

While I am totally opposed to same sex relationships, how can I win any to God or even show God’s love to them if I am approaching them in condemnation? I know how it feels for someone to tell me that I am going to hell because of my rebellious, disobedient behavior. That was not something I would think a loving God would say to me. It made me feel like I didn’t want to know God and I know that is the way a lot of people who engage in the same sex lifestyle feel. I don’t want to add to that any longer. I want to show love to EVERYBODY just as God showed HIS love to ME when I walked contrary to HIS word and HIS way. God has never condemned me but His Holy Spirit convicted me of my sin. The Holy Spirit showed me where I erred and lovingly prompted me to learn the ways of God and to walk in them without trying to figure out in my natural mind….the mind of Christ.

See, our natural minds are finite. We, in our natural/human state cannot fully understand the things and ways of God, but what we DO know is what we should demonstrate to those who are hurting for whatever reason.

God did not call us to be Christian Bullies. He did not call us to Kill the soul of another person, but HE DID call us to LOVE one another. I wholeheartedly do not agree with the idea of same-sex relationships/marriages and I don’t think I ever will, but I am determined to walk in love towards those who either don’t know the Bible truth, rebel against Bible truth, are confused by Bible Truth, or just don’t even care about Bible Truth. I will, lovingly point out scriptures which reference same sex activities, but I will not beat anybody upon the head with the Bible trying to force them to believe what I believe. I don’t do that to alcoholics, fornicators, liars, thieves, adulterers, murderers, those who sow discord, etc., so I won’t do it to one particular group.

Everybody has a soul where their emotions dwell. I don’t want to be a agent of hate towards any human being for we all have fallen short of the Glory of God. Not one of us have walked 100 before the God we SAY we serve.

Yes, I will continue to preach the Word of God, but I will not condemn.
Yes, I will continue to teach the Word of God, but I will not condemn.
I will show love……….to ……..every……human being just as God has shown love to me.

Know Your Worth – A Poem

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I want to get out

I want to be free

Why won’t this man

Just let me be?

I’m sick of his constant

attacks on my mind

I wish I had strength

To whoop his behind.

My friends say to leave him

But I’ve nowhere to go

This constant abuse

Makes me feel so low.

If I’m not good enough

Why does he stay?

Since I’m such a bad person

Why won’t he go away?

I know. I allow it

I give him that space

To rant and rage

And to be all up in my face.

I want to tell

But to whom should I speak?

They won’t believe me

They’ll say I’m being weak.

I hope one day

He’ll just let me be

I hope one day

I will truly be free……………

I Co-Authored A Book – Dear Lord, I Think I Married The Wrong Person

In this book, “Dear Lord, I Think I Married the Wrong Person,” I speak about “Unholy Matrimony”.

Here’s an excerpt: “In June of 1996, upon my return to Philadelphia, I was lonely, depressed and looking for love. Not really love, but for the attention from which I felt I deserved. I was looking for a man who as going to treat me like I had dreamed – love on me no matter what: tell me that I was beautiful no matter what I looked like. A man who was handsome, patient, had money to buy me things, and would take me out to dinner.I wanted a man who could stand up and be a man in any situation; I wanted a man who understood this broken woman; this mentally and physically abused woman; this woman who had hang-ups about sex due to being raped. I wanted a man to love the little girl who was abandoned by her mother at the age of 9 months. I wanted a man who would hold me and tell me everything would be alright. Yes, I was dreaming and I was foolish enough to believe that a man, a mere man could take on all that baggage I was carrying around”.

As I sat here typing this excerpt, I realized I expected a man to do what only GOD could do for me and was to HEAL ME.


Abuse, if not addressed, can cause life-long problems for the abused as well as for the abuser. NO FORM OF ABUSE IS OK AT ANY TIME.  People were not made to be abused. We were created in love, by GOD and we are to demonstrate love to others; however, we know that we do not live in a perfect world but we can do better.

If you would like more information about this book of which I was one of 15 female authors, please contact me via Facebook @ Theresa Godismakingmeoveragain Scott.

Not Made To Be Abused

Abuse is not something GOD made ME for
I am a woman, NOT a mat on the floor.
GOD made ME to help you meet YOUR needs
Not to punch me in the face and knock me to my knees.
I am STRONG yet I am WEAK
And being abused makes my life bleak.
I was made by GOD To walk by YOUR side
Not as a punching bag for you to blacken MY eye.
GOD didn’t give me to you to belittle me and knock me down
GOD gave me to you so I could be your crown.
But since YOU DON’T APPRECIATE THE GIFT I AM to you
I’m packing my bags and I’m leaving you, boo.
Too bad for you, but I’VE LEARNED MY WORTH
I WAS your blessing but you treated me like a curse.
So in these bags, I pack all of my clothes
As I am patching up my bloodied nose.
But in THESE bags I leave behind
Anger, Hate and a bitter mind.
I also leave revenge and unforgiveness
Fear and depression and feelings of unworthiness.
Abuse is not something GOD made me for
HE has something BETTER for me as I walk out this door.
Please don’t get another woman to talk down to and hate
Give your life to CHRIST before it’s too late.
HE can heal all of YOUR PAIN you hide
JESUS knows what’s going on deep down inside.
Your dad abused your mom right in front of you
So you grew up thinking that’s the right thing to do.
But you’ve been to church and you’ve read GOD’S WORD
So you really DO know that beating a woman is absurd.
Your daddy beat you when you were a kid
He beat your for anything and everything you did.
He never, ever lad a kind word to give you
In fact, several times he even tried to kill you.
He called you names like sissy and punk
He never knew how your little heart sunk. 
When he beat you he said, “shut up and be a man,
Because one day this is how you’re gonna beat your woMan”.
So you came to our marriage filled with anger and hate
You had a great woman whom you couldn’t appreciate.
So you’re dragging around baggage filled with resentment, anger and hate
Destroying EVERY relationship you attempt to make.
But GOD can heal you if you want to be healed
Just confess your hurt and your pain and your heart, just yield.
GOD can do what no one else can
HE will heal your heart and make you a new man.
GOD will even restore your wife, to you
Because while HE is healing her, HE’s healing you too.
No more abuse
No more shame
You both are healed in JESUS’ NAME.
Go get your wife, go get her now
Make to each other a brand new vow.
Say to each other
“I love you and you love me. We’ll walk with Christ in this new matrimony.
No more baggage, no more trash. We both are healed and free at last”.

Copyright 2012/21/12