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Rustie MacDonald – Foster Child Advocate

Join us this evening, JANUARY 22, 2015 on Blogtalkradio as we welcome FOSTER CHILD ADVOCATE, Rustie MacDonald. Tune and listen to this child/youth advocate. She has a beautiful story and work. 1-323-693-3054
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“I was born in 1976 in Lexington, Kentucky.  I was relocated to Florida until 1990. Then in 1990 I moved to Vermont and now I live on the Seacoast of New Hampshire. I have always had this overwhelming desire to help others and this began at a very early age. I was witness to the over whelming poverty of the early 1980’s. As a very young girl, I saw the mile long lines of people waiting for food donation given by the Salvation Army. The severe poverty I lived in and witnessed aroused a great compassion for others and set the stage for my empathetic and giving nature.  At age 4, I had already begun to save food to help the local Salvation Army “feed that long line of people who are hungry.”   Even then, I was determined to make sure no one ever felt alone or without.

As I grew up, I began to volunteer for various organizations. In High school, I advocated in the Juvenile Court system as a Peer Advocate for Foster Youth.  I started a children’s reading group as an “America Reads” volunteer at my local public library. I continued to set the stage of leadership as my High School began a new Award “School Spirit.” In honor of my dedication to my school, I was the first to receive this public award.

265092_1649071246282_5457533_nWhile attending Johnson State College, I was a Big Sister in the Big Sister/Brother Program. I continued to advocate for Foster Youth and was invited by the State Of Vermont’s Children Services (DHS) to Speak at a Foster Care Conference in 1996. I spoke about the difficulty of attending college as a foster child. My motivational speech was made in front of Legislators, DHS employees and 100 foster youth. I speech helped to create opportunities for foster children to attend college. This was an empowering moment for me and a pivotal point in my life. That was the moment I  took the first steps on my path as a coach, mentor and life long advocate”.

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Missing Mom and Wondering “What IF?”

Today marks the 1-year “anniversary” (if I should call it anniversary, I don’t know) of my mom’s death. My family are upset and still crying as if she actually passed, today. I can understand that but I’m feeling kind of sad, too; not because mom passed, but because I didn’t know her like the rest of my family knew her and two years wasn’t enough time for me to get to really know her. I try to think what it would have been like to be raised with my mother. Although mom had her problems, as we all do, I still catch myself wondering what would have my life been like had I been raised by my mother.

My siblings got hugs I didn’t get. They had heart to heart talks with mom that I will never get.  When they got sick, mom was there to nurse them back to health, but not me. Sometimes I find myself being envious, jealous and yes, even angry when I see the baby pictures, and the pictures of my siblings as they grew up and I am not in any of the pictures. That hurts but I can’t go back and place myself in those photos.

Sometimes I feel as though I got robbed by not having my mom when I was growing up. Sometimes it hurts like I can’t even explain, but then I think of how I turned out and I think my life turned out for the best.

Did I have major problems? Yes, but I can’t blame my mother for that. She could only be who she was at that time. She had issues. A baby son of hers was alive when she went to do her errands but when she got back home, he was dead in the playpen. That caused her to spiral into drunkenness, a trip which she never came back from.

So, on this day of remembering the passing of my mother, 1 year ago today, I wrestle with thoughts of “WHAT IF?” I will never know the answer to that question but I do believe GOD chose this life for me.