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God Saved My Marriage – YouTube Video

God Saved My Marriage Video
This video is #1 in a series where I talk about my book An Attitude of Love: The Ways of A Godly Wife. I will share some real life experiences that my husband and I went through at the worst of our marriage. I will also share how God changed my heart and healed me from all of the baggage which I was carrying.
I was a little girl in a woman’s body, crying out for help. When God knew that I was serious and wanted to change ME, then HE stepped in and helped me to become the woman I am today.
I hope you enjoy these videos and I pray that somebody can be helped after seeing these videos.

God bless you.

Let It Go!

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Does this look familiar? Husband and wife going at each other’s neck. I don’t know what the couple in the picture is “arguing” about, but I’d like to stand there and just say “LET IT GO!!!”

I used to be an argumentative, contentious woman. Everything got on my nerves. Everything was a reason for ME to argue or find fault. I WAS MISERABLE and I made my husband miserable. Why? Because I had some things from my past that I did not let go of and I brought that baggage into my marriage.

I didn’t realize how damaged I was and how much unforgiveness I was holding on to. Arguing had become a sport for me. I didn’t feel right unless I was arguing. It gave me some sort of pseudo power. I felt like in was in control when I argued with my husband because he is not an arguer. He is a peaceful man. And yes, he had been through some difficult things in his life, but he had let it go! He chose not to carry the hurt of his youth in to his present/future.

I remember when one of my husband’s uncle’s passed away. My husband eulogized him and during the sermon, one thing that stuck out from the entire sermon was this; “Let it Go!!!” This was before Disney came out with the movie, Frozen. In fact, that was back in 2001.

He told the listening audience to let go of anger that you’ve been holding on to for years and years. He said, “some of you are angry with people and don’t even remember why. Let it go!!!” People began to start crying and said they wanted to let it go. Some of the people at the funeral were arch enemies because they were the girlfriends of my husbands deceased uncle. They were wondering which one of them were going to get his money, but he had a wife whom he was still legally married to (yes the other women knew it). So, in the end, they had to LET IT GO because now, sugar daddy was dead and the money train was gone. It wasn’t the fault of the other mistress so they had to let it go.

Then he talked about his own life….how he had to forgive his dad for not being there for him and his brother. He said, publicly, “I felt bad when you left us, dad, but today, I LET IT GO!” He said, “Dad, I love you and whatever happened in our past, I let it go!!!” His father never forgot that. Every time they got together, his dad always brought it up and thanked him for saying “Let It Go”. They had a better relationship during his dad’s later years than they ever had. I was proud of my husband and so were many others.

However, when it came my time to let it go, I had a hard time with it. I couldn’t let go of the feelings I had towards the man who violently raped me. I couldn’t let go of the fact that the right to raise my children was taken away from me due to revenge. I couldn’t let go of the feelings I had of being rejected by several men. I couldn’t let go of the fact that I felt like the world hated me. No. I couldn’t let go. If I let go, I would be losing another part of me. The only part I had control of.

Fast forward to 2010, I was faced with a situation that was heart-wrenching. I needed to take a trip but God would not let me go until I released some of the emotional baggage that I was still holding on to. Number 1 bag that had to go was HATE/anger. How could I help someone else with all of that hate inside of me? So, as God does it, HE had me to confess my hurt/HATE/anger and begin to deal with it. I wrestled with God for a moment and then, finally, I LET IT GO! I LET GO OF THE HATE/ANGER/HURT. Yes, I was finally free of that part of my life, and it felt good. I could face whom/what I needed to face without being bitter, hateful, resentful, etc. I HAD, FOR THE FIRST TIME, LET IT GO! And guess who it helped? ME.

So, let it go. Whatever it is, Let it Go. If you feel as if you can’t, ask God to help you. I know for a fact that HE will help you if you want HIM to. It may hurt to release all of the baggage, but you deserve to be free from the mental anguish. You deserve to be free from any and all guilt you may be feeling. You deserve to be FREE.

I am so glad that I am no longer argumentative towards my husband. Of course, he is ecstatic about it. He has a new wife and that new wife is me. Why? Because I let it go………….

Condemnation or Love –

I have been thinking lately about how certain people have been treated mistreated by the “church”. There is one group in particular, the gay community, who have been targeted and demeaned by those who proclaim to know and Love God. I have a confession: I was one of those people who condemned the gay community as those going to hell because their lifestyle is contrary to what the Bible teaches. However, recently, God has been giving me more of HIS HEART towards ALL MANKIND and that is HIS HEART OF LOVE.

I began thinking, “How can I minister to the gay community, the love of God?” or How can I minister to the woman or man who sells their body for sex or drugs?” “How will I minister to the alcoholic who curses God every chance he or she gets?” How Lord can I show these people YOUR LOVE?

My heart has taken a turn to LOVE and away from CONDEMNATION. I looked into the eyes of a homosexual man, on Thursday, and at first, I was put off by his obvious female gestures, talk and posture, but then I heard him say something that forever changed my perspective about the gay community…..”We hurt just like anybody else”. Now, I know everybody has a point in their life where they hurt, emotionally, but is it the job of the Christian to add more hurt to the hurting?

While I am totally opposed to same sex relationships, how can I win any to God or even show God’s love to them if I am approaching them in condemnation? I know how it feels for someone to tell me that I am going to hell because of my rebellious, disobedient behavior. That was not something I would think a loving God would say to me. It made me feel like I didn’t want to know God and I know that is the way a lot of people who engage in the same sex lifestyle feel. I don’t want to add to that any longer. I want to show love to EVERYBODY just as God showed HIS love to ME when I walked contrary to HIS word and HIS way. God has never condemned me but His Holy Spirit convicted me of my sin. The Holy Spirit showed me where I erred and lovingly prompted me to learn the ways of God and to walk in them without trying to figure out in my natural mind….the mind of Christ.

See, our natural minds are finite. We, in our natural/human state cannot fully understand the things and ways of God, but what we DO know is what we should demonstrate to those who are hurting for whatever reason.

God did not call us to be Christian Bullies. He did not call us to Kill the soul of another person, but HE DID call us to LOVE one another. I wholeheartedly do not agree with the idea of same-sex relationships/marriages and I don’t think I ever will, but I am determined to walk in love towards those who either don’t know the Bible truth, rebel against Bible truth, are confused by Bible Truth, or just don’t even care about Bible Truth. I will, lovingly point out scriptures which reference same sex activities, but I will not beat anybody upon the head with the Bible trying to force them to believe what I believe. I don’t do that to alcoholics, fornicators, liars, thieves, adulterers, murderers, those who sow discord, etc., so I won’t do it to one particular group.

Everybody has a soul where their emotions dwell. I don’t want to be a agent of hate towards any human being for we all have fallen short of the Glory of God. Not one of us have walked 100 before the God we SAY we serve.

Yes, I will continue to preach the Word of God, but I will not condemn.
Yes, I will continue to teach the Word of God, but I will not condemn.
I will show love……….to ……..every……human being just as God has shown love to me.

Recycling Garbage!

I just watched a wonderful video by a young man named Prince Ea on Facebook. He made some excellent points about allowing garbage in your life. His video got me to thinking about the garbage I have allowed into my life over the years and how it (the garbage) has affected me.

As many of you know, I grew up in foster care. I suffered much abuse from the ages of 12-16. Yeah, that’s only four years, but those were some hellish years, wrought with physical, sexual and mental abuse. I learned how to be a physically and verbally abusive wife and mother during those years, by watching one of my foster mothers treat her husband and us foster children like we were somehow not deserving of love. I learned how to talk mean to, and about people whether or not they did anything to me that would justify my actions. I further learned how to be “good” or on my best behavior around certain people (putting on facade’s). I learned how to be demanding, abrupt, and just plain old callous. Relationships had an expiration date and the date was determined by me. I learned to cuss at people and physically fight, just for the heck of it (I didn’t really fight that much, but when I did, I picked on or bullied someone whom I knew was not going to challenge me until one day, I became the one being bullied). Yes, I had a lot of other garbage deposited in me and one of the major things was rejection. I rejected love because I didn’t really know what it was. I rejected people because I thought everybody was out to get me. How wrong I was.

During the last 3-4 years, God has systematically been healing me from my past hurts – in other words, He has been taking out the garbage. He has been changing my old mindsets and replacing them with HIS mindset as I pray and study His Word. Let me say this: God has tried to take the garbage out before, but I kept on recycling it. I didn’t know how to be Theresa without holding on to the garbage. I was actually afraid of becoming somebody else if I allowed God to heal me and that was a trick of the enemy of my soul. Satan wanted me to stay bound so that I couldn’t become who God intended me to be. He wanted me to stay stuck in misery, self-hate, self-loathing – filled with suicidal thoughts and self-damaging choices. But God had another plan for my life and that was for me to be healed and to walk in the newness of life.

Are you holding on to garbage that needs to be put out? Have you attempted to take the garbage to the curb, but before the garbage man could come to collect it, you went back out to the curb and re-collected it?

I pray for you that you will allow God to heal you of all garbage that was deposited into you. I pray that you will determine in your mind that you will be FREE because JESUS came to set the captives free. I pray that you will let God heal you so that you can be a witness to someone else who is going through the same thing that you are going through right now.

Don’t recycle the garbage. Let the trash go and be healed, in Jesus’ name. Amen.

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Some points from the video:

Our input determines our output

GMO’S  greedy, miserable, obnoxious (stay away from these types of people)

Fix yourself and become an example

Keeping hanging out with losers you will pick up their qualities.

Figure out what you want out of life, because you are going to be with YOU for the rest of your life.

Understanding Love – 1 Corinthians 13

                                                    “You didn’t clean up the kitchen!” “You always have MY living                                               room looking a mess!” “Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah!!!”                                                                           Notebook and pen

I read an article by Mustardseedbudget.wordpress.com entitled “Love Keeps No Record of Wrong” and I got to thinking of how I used to actually keep mental, and sometimes written records of what I thought my husband had done wrong to me. The things I kept record of were absolutely ridiculous and not really worth keeping record of. Things like, not putting his clothes in the hamper or leaving “my living room” out of order with his papers and books (he was a pastor and high school teacher so he had to have a place to study and check students’ work). He would cook dinner but I would be upset that he made a mess in the kitchen without cleaning it up. Let me tell you, I was a mess.

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Then one day, the Holy Spirit spoke to my spirit and said, “What if God kept a record of your wrongdoing and brought up your shortcomings? How would you feel?” That right there, stopped me in my tracks and made me think of how horrible I had been acting towards my husband about minor things. Things that could be easily corrected. Unfortunately, I reverted back to my old ways of keeping record of wrong until one day, my husband had had enough. He said, “Theresa, why is it that every time we have an argument, you bring up something I did wrong?” He went on to say, “I don’t do that to you and I have plenty of things I could say but I choose not to say them because they don’t really matter and I love you so I forgive you when you do something wrong. When are you going to let go and stop bringing up what I did? You say you forgive me, but you don’t because if you did, you wouldn’t keep bringing stuff up”. Well, I have to tell you, I felt like the worse person on earth. After all, my husband has never cheated on me, hit me, called me names, spent his/our money on illicit or unnecessary things, etc. I had/have the best husband I could ask for. He loves God (which I asked for). He is just a great man. But I was messed up inside. I was lashing out at him because I still needed healing from things I had suffered as a child and even in my adult life.

When my husband expressed his feelings, I had to sit down and reflect on what he said. I was not operating in love ~ agape. I was operating in selfishness. I wanted EVERYTHING to be MY WAY or NO WAY. It was my way to have control because growing up in foster care, I didn’t have control over the abuse I received. I didn’t have any control over how I was treated and I was determined that I was going to control what happened in my life from the time I left foster care until I closed my eyes in death. I didn’t know that I was messed up and was destroying my marital relationship.

Fast forward.

God has done some wonderful things in my life. I am still healing from some past hurts, but I no longer reflect my pain onto my husband. Whenever I feel something, I pray about it and allow God to heal that. I don’t waste paper and energy to write down what I consider wrong because God does not do that to me. If HE did, there would be enough books to fill several nice-sized libraries. I don’t allow the negative, condemning thoughts to take up space in my mind anymore.

Walking in God’s love is a choice. We have free will. I choose to do 1 Corinthians 13 and it has saved me and my marriage. My husband can truly say that he likes the woman I have become. Of course he has always loved me, but he didn’t like me very much. How could he. I was not likable. Truthfully, I didn’t like myself but I thank God for Change.

Thank you Mustard Seed Budget for your article. It is needed.

An Attitude Of Love: The Ways of A Godly Wife The video

Hey everybody,

Please view my new video on YouTube. It is about my new book, An Attitude of Love: The Ways of A Godly Wife.

Thank you for your support.

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God bless you.

The video for my book – An Attitude of Love: The Ways of A Godly Wife

An Attitude of Forgiveness and Love

Have you had someone do something to you that seemed unforgivable? Has someone said “I’m sorry” repeatedly but turned around and hurt you again and now you just can’t forgive them? Well, when I read through the Bible, I see how mankind has repeatedly done things to God which seem unforgivable. I’ve read how people have said “I’m sorry” or “I’ve sinned” and have seemingly repented, but turn right around and do the same thing over and over again…..Yet……God has forgiven us. His attitude is to Forgive…..Because His Attitude is to LOVE.

Can you imagine, for a moment, Jesus hanging on an old rugged cross…..for us….for our sins? Can you imagine for a moment, God, looking down on His Son hanging there, on our behalf…..all because of His Attitude of Forgiveness and Love. Imagine for a moment, that God, knowing all things, knew that mankind would repeatedly sin against Him, but HE chose to forgive and to love us.

I know for a fact that I have rebelled, disobeyed, said I was sorry numerous times and went back and did the same thing I said I was sorry for, yet God forgave me and loved me. Oh that I would take on His Attitude of Forgiveness and Love. Oh That I would be like HIM.

Forgiveness is a powerful tool. We can take a lesson from God and choose to forgive and choose to love.

My New E-Book Is Out

Hello everyone. I haven’t been posting much lately because I have been trying to write TWO books simultaneously. I am pleased to announce that the E-Book is done and is available on Amazon.com. Here is the link: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00MMJQ5VA 

The title of my new E-Book is “An Attitude of Love: The Ways of A Godly Wife”. It is an updated/revised version of the book I wrote in 2006 entitled: An Attitude of Love: Submitting to My husband.

Here is a little synopsis:

An Attitude of Love: The Ways of A Godly Wife.


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This book gives a very honest account of how I transformed from a monster wife to a Godly wife. I share my journey of abuse (physical, mental and emotional), rejection, and how badly I treated my husband after he had a major life-altering situation come upon him.
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I believe this E-book can be a great tool to use for women who are considering marriage, are married or who may be considering divorce.
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Some women don’t respect their husbands as the head of the wife because they have had to be the head of the family.
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Some women, if they make more money than the man, thinks she is the head of the man.
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Then there are some who won’t submit to the headship of the husband because the husband is not walking in his role as the head. But is that a reason to disrespect his God-given place in the family?
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These and other important points are discussed in this E-Book. 

I would love it if you could go to Amazon.com and “Peek Inside” and then if you like it, purchase your own copy.
In the next few weeks, the paperback version will be out!

 

 

What Did Yahshua/Jesus Teach? (Part 2) FORGIVENESS ~ Are We Living It?

What Did Yahshua/Jesus Teach? (Part 2) FORGIVENESS ~ Are We Living It?
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  • Matthew 18:21-22
    Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times. (NIV)
  • Luke 6:37 
    Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. (NIV)
  • Matthew 6:14-16
    For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. (NIV)
  • Mark 11:25
    And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.