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If LOVE Abounded…..

LOVE means different things to different people. For some, LOVE is a feeling that changes depending upon the situation going on. To others, LOVE see’s no evil, speaks no evil, hears no evil. Then again, to some, LOVE means that I have to beat you up to show you how much I LOVE you. Well, LOVE should not hurt. LOVE should not seek to destroy. LOVE can dislike certain behaviors, but still LOVE the person.
I have personally seen people claim to LOVE but then use that person whom they LOVE so much as a punching bag. How, I ask, is that LOVE? How can you hurt, physically, the one you LOVE? How can you punch, slap, throw down on the ground, kick, cut, and/or shoot the one you LOVE? Please tell me WHERE IS LOVE IN THAT?

LOVE agree’s to disagree. LOVE forgives. LOVE helps, NOT hurts. 

NO MATTER WHAT, LOVE DOES NOT ABUSE OTHERS.

NO MATTER WHAT, LOVE DOES NO HARM TO OTHERS, INTENTIONALLY.

NO MATTER WHAT, LOVE IS SOMETHING GOOD…..

Don’t try to use the “tough love” excuse to abuse someone. That’s not LOVE. Tough LOVE is putting somebody in rehab because they keep abusing themselves and others. Tough LOVE is telling somebody the truth because you see them heading in the wrong direction and you’re trying to keep them from danger. Sometimes, tough LOVE means walking away.

AMERICA needs to turn back to LOVE. 

If LOVE would abound, there wouldn’t be so much divorce. LOVE would cause one to have control of their vessel and do the right thing. If you LOVE me, you wouldn’t cheat on me and if I LOVE you, I wouldn’t cheat on you. 
If LOVE abounded, there wouldn’t be murder, rape, child abuse, molestation, stealing and character assassination. Where is the LOVE IN THAT?

If LOVE abounded, there would be no racism. If LOVE abounded, there would be no hate crimes against those who are different from us.

If LOVE abounded, people could argue or disagree and come back together as if nothing happened.

If LOVE abounded, there would be no welfare because people would be helpers of one another. If LOVE abounded, people wouldn’t try to use others.

If LOVE abounded, there wouldn’t be as many homeless people on the streets. 

If LOVE abounded, prisons wouldn’t be.

If LOVE abounded……

Abuse: A Real Life Account – Women, Know Your Worth – Part 3

Where: Courtroom 415

Plaintiff/Victim: 40 year old female

Defendent/Offender: 38 year old male

Relationship Status: Married 4 years

Court Clerk: “Mrs. Jones, do you promise to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth so help you GOD?”

Plaintiff: “I Do”

District Attorney: Mrs. Jones, can you please tell us what happened on the night of January 12, 2013?

Plaintiff: Yes. On that night, I had texted my husband to tell him to get out. In the text messages, I told him that I was packing all of his belongings and putting them downstairs and that I wanted him to come and get his stuff and get out.

DA: When you say, “My husband”, who are you referring to?

Plaintiff: Mr. Jones.

DA: Is Mr. Jones here in the courtroom today, and if so, can you point him out to us?

Plaintiff: Yes. Mr. Jones is right over there (pointing to the defendant who was sitting with attorney at the defendant’s table)

DA: Mrs. Jones, what led to you sending those text messages?

Plaintiff: There has been several instances of abuse and I was tired of it so I told him he had to leave.

DA: Please tell us what happened which led to why we are here.

Plaintiff: (crying) Well, when my husband received the text messages, he came home. I don’t know where he was prior to this but he came home and he was not too happy. When he came in the door, I was on the stairway bringing down some more of his belongings but when I saw him, I went back upstairs. He followed me into the bedroom. When he got in there, he was looking in the closet and I guess it hit him that I was serious and wanted him to leave. When her saw that I wasn’t playing, he turned around and began choking me. He choked me so hard that I passed out.

DA: How long were you passed out Mrs. Jones?

Plaintiff: I don’t know. When I woke up, my husband started choking me again and was saying “you think you just gonna put me out? You think you just gonna get rid of me like that?” I passed out again but I don’t know for how long. When I woke up, I tried to get away from my husband but he lunged at me. This time he had a box cutter in his hand and he started swinging on me. He cut my face and neck on the right side and he cut my left breast and he cut my right hand. I couldn’t believe what was happening. The blood was pouring from the cuts and I was crying. When my husband saw all of the blood, he stopped and started trying to help me stop the bleeding. As he was applying pressure to the cuts, he started crying and apologizing. He kept saying “I’m sorry baby. I’m so sorry”. My husband then told me to get up so he could take me to the hospital. So I got up and he walked me to the car, opened the passenger door and helped me in. He was driving very fast and was swerving all over the place. He was apologizing profusely. Because he was driving so erratically, I told him to pull over and let me drive. He did. As I drove, I told my husband that if he goes into the hospital with me, he was going to get arrested. He said “I know but I have to get you help”. So we pulled up to the emergency room entrance and my husband took me in and the nurses asked me what happened. I told them and they asked me if my husband was the one who did this and I said, “Yes”. Mr. Jones stood right there until the police came and questioned him. He told them what happened and they let him go. He went to our house and waited for the police to come get him. They did.

DA: No further questions, Your honor.

Judge: Mr. Howard, do you have any questions for the Plaintiff:

Defense Attorney: Yes Your Honor.

Judge: Proceed

Defense Attorney: Thank you Your Honor. Mrs. Jones, is it true that you and Mr. Jones had been arguing and fighting prior to you sending those text messages?

Plaintiff: No. We had not been arguing nor fighting that day.

Defense Attorney: Then what prompted you to send those text messages telling your husband to get out?

Plaintiff: My husband and I have not been getting along. He is abusive and I was just tired of being abused. He cheated on me, stayed out for days at a time and he would hit me when he felt like it.

Defense Attorney: So, on the night in question, Mr. Jones had not physically attacked you before you sent the texts?

Plaintiff: No

Defense Attorney: Mrs. Jones, you stated that Mr. Jones came in while you were on the steps bringing down the remainder of his belongings. When he came in the door, did you say anything to him?

Plaintiff: No

Defense Attorney: Did Mr. Jones say anything to you?

Plaintiff: No. Not until we got into the bedroom.

Defense Attorney: Mrs. Jones, let’s get to the part where Mr. Jones began choking you. Had you done anything to cause him to begin choking you?

Plaintiff: (looking puzzled and angry) No. He was angry because I had taken all of his belongings out of the closet. He realized I was serious about him leaving and that’s why he began choking me.

Defense Attorney: Mrs. Jones, didn’t you testify that after Mr. Jones had cut you that he tried his best to stop the bleeding and then, even though he knew he was facing being arrested, drove you to the hospital?

Plaintiff: Yes

Defense Attorney: Didn’t you also testify that the defendant, Mr. Jones kept apologizing to you?

Plaintiff: Yes.

Defense Attorney: Is it safe to say that the defendant was showing remorse for what he had done to you?

Plaintiff: Yes

Defense Attorney: No further questions, Your Honor

Judge: Mrs. Jones, you may step down.

DA: Your honor, I would like to say that although the defendant did say he was sorry, repeatedly and did drive my client to the hospital, he DID this heinous crime. I petition the court to remand Mr. Jones to jail and to keep his bail at half a million dollars until the court hearing because my client fears for her life. Thank you Your Honor.

Judge to the Defense Attorney: Mr. Howard

Defense Attorney: Thank you Your Honor. I would like to ask the court if Your Honor would consider reducing the bail of my client. It is currently half a million dollars and I think that is unreasonable. As the court heard, Mr. Jones was very remorseful after attacking Mrs. Jones. He demonstrated that remorse by telling Mrs.Jones that he was sorry and by attempting to drive her to the hospital, knowing that arrest was imminent. Your Honor, my client is a well-respected working citizen. I have letters from his job which state that he is an exemplary employee. His mother has just been diagnosed with cancer and his grandmother’s health is rapidly failing and Mr. Jones’ income is what the family depends on to help them make financial ends meet. Without his income, they are going to be hurting. Plus, Your Honor, my client has had one incident with the law and that was several years ago. I was not a felony and Mr. Jones has not been in any trouble with the law since that incident. I am requesting a bail reduction for my client so that he can post bail and get back to work. Thank you  Your Honor.

Judge (after deliberating): Mr. Howard, your request for bail reduction is DENIED. Mr. Jones will remain in jail until his trial in March. To the court clerk; Please give a date for the court appearance.

Clerk: March 4, 2013 10:00 a.m. in court room 905.

Judge: Thank you clerk. Attorneys, You all are dismissed. Image

I‘m sad to report that I actually witnessed this case in court this past Thursday. I was there to support my sister in an unrelated ABUSE case. The names have been changed but the story is real. Too many women are going through this. I noticed that Mrs. Jones did not call the police. She didn’t want to be the one to call. It seemed that she was scared to call the police so she let him take her to the hospital because she KNEW the police would get him and he couldn’t blame her.

As I watched the plaintiff when she gave her account of what happened, I kept glaring over at the defendant who sat in his seat with his head hung.I wanted to reach over the banister and clunk him in his head. The cuts he gave his wife were no less than two inches in length. She received a total of 19 stitches for here wounds. I can’t say Mr. Jones wasn’t remorseful, but all I could think about is “what if that knife would have cut her jugular vein?” Women, if you are in an abusive relationship, please go and get a restraining order or go to a safe place where your abuser can’t get to you. Too many women are unlucky and have met their deaths at the hands of an abuser.

FYI: My sister has left her abuser and that’s why she was in court. Her abuser is vindictive and because she left him, he filed false charges against her and her new husband.

Women, Know Your Worth.

 

Not Made To Be Abused

Abuse is not something GOD made ME for
I am a woman, NOT a mat on the floor.
GOD made ME to help you meet YOUR needs
Not to punch me in the face and knock me to my knees.
I am STRONG yet I am WEAK
And being abused makes my life bleak.
I was made by GOD To walk by YOUR side
Not as a punching bag for you to blacken MY eye.
GOD didn’t give me to you to belittle me and knock me down
GOD gave me to you so I could be your crown.
But since YOU DON’T APPRECIATE THE GIFT I AM to you
I’m packing my bags and I’m leaving you, boo.
Too bad for you, but I’VE LEARNED MY WORTH
I WAS your blessing but you treated me like a curse.
So in these bags, I pack all of my clothes
As I am patching up my bloodied nose.
But in THESE bags I leave behind
Anger, Hate and a bitter mind.
I also leave revenge and unforgiveness
Fear and depression and feelings of unworthiness.
Abuse is not something GOD made me for
HE has something BETTER for me as I walk out this door.
Please don’t get another woman to talk down to and hate
Give your life to CHRIST before it’s too late.
HE can heal all of YOUR PAIN you hide
JESUS knows what’s going on deep down inside.
Your dad abused your mom right in front of you
So you grew up thinking that’s the right thing to do.
But you’ve been to church and you’ve read GOD’S WORD
So you really DO know that beating a woman is absurd.
Your daddy beat you when you were a kid
He beat your for anything and everything you did.
He never, ever lad a kind word to give you
In fact, several times he even tried to kill you.
He called you names like sissy and punk
He never knew how your little heart sunk. 
When he beat you he said, “shut up and be a man,
Because one day this is how you’re gonna beat your woMan”.
So you came to our marriage filled with anger and hate
You had a great woman whom you couldn’t appreciate.
So you’re dragging around baggage filled with resentment, anger and hate
Destroying EVERY relationship you attempt to make.
But GOD can heal you if you want to be healed
Just confess your hurt and your pain and your heart, just yield.
GOD can do what no one else can
HE will heal your heart and make you a new man.
GOD will even restore your wife, to you
Because while HE is healing her, HE’s healing you too.
No more abuse
No more shame
You both are healed in JESUS’ NAME.
Go get your wife, go get her now
Make to each other a brand new vow.
Say to each other
“I love you and you love me. We’ll walk with Christ in this new matrimony.
No more baggage, no more trash. We both are healed and free at last”.

Copyright 2012/21/12