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My, How Times Have Changed

I no longer recognize the world in which I live. When I was a child, things were so much different. I understand that things change over time, but things have REALLY changed. I remember when the produce man and the fish man would come around the neighborhood and sell their food. I remember when the neighbors helped raise the children on the block. We looked out for each other. If one neighbor was without, the neighborhood would rally together and help them out. If a person was sick, the neighbors would help them by providing soup and medicines, without grumbling, murmuring or complaining. If a neighbor didn’t have a television or phone, neighbors who had those things would offer them to those who didn’t have them. People spoke to one another when they entered a place. Folk in the same house said good morning and good night. We communicated with each other. We ate meals at the table at the same time. We played games together and really enjoyed life. It’s 2013 and it sounds like I’m telling a story from another world. My how times have changed.
Back then, children were not so quick to be disrespectful to their elders. School teachers were not afraid of the students. Parents were parents to their children, not friends. Back then, parents were not 13, 14, 15, and 16 year old (not in my time). People didn’t “shack up”, and if they did, they didn’t flaunt it. 
Pastors went to their members’ homes to check on them and pray for them. Television was clean. Music was clean. It was an entirely different world. 
I can’t imagine how somebody from the 1920’s would react to seeing just how much this world has changed – cars, mega planes, mega buses, gigantic grocery stores, mega malls and mega churches……I wonder what they would think about today’s world.


I hate to see the things you do

to draw attention from your boo.

All he wants is to swell his pride

Come on girl, don’t let him ride.

You’re not the only girl on his list

and when you refuse him, he’ll use his fist

to prove his manhood – he Tarzan you Jane

Not realizing he’s really insane.

But you, my girl must make up your mind

that you want attention, but not that kind.

You are worth much more than know

Come on girl, it’s time to go.

For the man who will love you and treat you right

Is waiting for you – just a little out of sight.

But as long as you keep putting up with that “zero”

You’ll mess around and miss your hero.

So put on some clothes and cover your girth

And say to yourself “I KNOW MY WORTH”.




Women, Know Your Worth, Part 2

Too many times, especially in the spring/summer, I find women (young and older), dressing to draw attention to themselves. Either their breasts are busting out of their clothing or the crack of their butt is exposed (couldn’t think of a more diplomatic way to say that) or they are showing off their on-purpose wedgie otherwise known as a thong. Some women even go as far as wearing “shorts” that are so short that it looks as if they are wearing undergarments.
It appears that most of these women are dressing this way so as to attract the attention of the opposite sex, but I am finding that many are dressing that way so as to attract the attention of female “HATERS”. This, women, is a problem.
We ought to be attracting attention because we are intelligent, nice and are of good character. Dressing immodestly would cause one to think that you are “easy”, “slutty”, a “one night stand”, or a “whore”. Some women get offended when anybody addresses them by those words, but as I have heard many times, “DRESS THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE ADDRESSED”. If you want to be addressed as slutty, a one night stand, a whore or a b****, then by all means continue to dress immodestly; however, if you want to be addressed as an intelligent, woman of good character, DITCH the booty shorts, cover the boobs and PLEASE wear pants that will cover your butt crack!!!  

Before anybody gets all upset and out of pocket, I have a daughter in her twenties and this is the same advice I would give to her. I minister to women who have low self esteem and I teach them to KNOW THEIR WORTH!!! Not because I think I have arrived, but because I want to see women RESPECTED but I can’t expect others to respect what isn’t respectable. 

                                              WOMEN, KNOW YOUR WORTH