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Women, Know Your Worth! If He Will Cheat With You, He Will Cheat On You! 7-30-13

I just recently had the opportunity to observe some women at a company where I was working. One woman in particular, stood out. On certain days of the week, she would wear provocative clothing. At first I didn’t catch on, but as the weeks went by, I noticed that on the days she dressed provocatively, she was dressing for her “secret lover”, a particular male employee who only came to our location on those days. They were having an affair! “That’s not bad”, you say. Well this woman is MARRIED! Her husband comes to the job site and visits and when he is about to leave, they have this big PDA (public display of affection). They tell each other “I love you” and then as soon as the husband leaves, she would run back over to her secret lover and they would kiss ~ right in front of the other employees. She seemed oblivious to the fact that her co-workers were disgusted by her actions.

This woman does not know her worth and neither does the man whom she is having an affair with. What gets me is that the lover knows the husband but yet and still, he goes behind this man’s back and lays with his wife. 

This woman, as beautiful as she is, had three violations:
#1 She violated one of the items in the employee handbook which clearly states that there shall be no sexual contact between employees while at work and it is strongly suggested that sexual relationships be avoided altogether.

#2 She violated her marriage vows. I don’t know if her husband is having an affair or not. What I do know is that she showed such PDA with her husband and then started kissing on another man as soon as her husband left the building. 

#3 She violated herself by lowering her self-respect. She didn’t care who knew she was having an affair with this man whom I consider less than a man because he knew she was married and knew who she was married to.

This woman, because of her lust, could have very well lost her job. I don’t know if that is in going to happen, but there have definitely been some changes at the job because of her behavior. Yes she still wears seductive clothes when her lover is at the site, but she no longer is allowed to sit with or near him during working hours.

Women, KNOW YOUR WORTH. If a man will cheat WITH you, chances are, he WILL CHEAT ON YOU!

Women, KNOW Your Worth!!!

I was looking at an article today about a tv “star” who apparently does NOT know her worth. She seems to think her worth is found in doing porn and in enlarging her boobs……to get the desired attention she is seeking.

This saddens me as I keep trying to stress that we, women, are not our boobs, hips and bottoms. If that is all a man is interested in, then please send him to the nearest chicken joint to get his appetite satisfied.

This young woman was so pretty without all of the extra stuff she is doing to her body, but the demands of Hollywood has caused her to try to impress men so she can make her porn career better. It’s sad that a woman WANTS to be know for being a porn star. I feel like finding her, wrapping my arms around her and tell her that she worth more than being looked at as a piece of meat or as a whore. 
Young women, YOU ARE NOT just good for hard penis. You have a brain. Please use it. Please don’t let porn or any other ungodly practices be your motivation. Porn, while it may pay good money, it opens the door for sexually transmitted diseases. Porn, while it may pay good money, could prevent you from getting a job later in life because once something goes viral, there’s no getting rid of it. Porn, for what it’s worth, is a degrading profession meant to cheapen the value of a woman. I know that for those who like porn, this sounds preachy and judgmental, but as a woman, I know that a woman is worth more than what is between her legs and how good she can give a blow job. I know that a woman is worth more than being passed around from man to man to get his pleasure, but for a woman who doesn’t know her worth, being a porn star is glamorous. 
Young women, know your worth! 
As I sat yesterday, looking out a window, I saw many women pass me by. Some were mothers. Some were single women with no children at all. They lived in the project and I tell you what, the woman who respects herself and decides to separate herself from the crowd, she is hated and ridiculed. The woman who dresses without exposing her body parts is considered Not cool or frigid/rigid. The woman who is not looking for the attention of men, she is looked upon as stupid. while on the other hand, the young woman who is out there baring her boobs, and wearing booty shorts, she is praised and accepted. The guys don’t like it when she dresses conservatively. They want to see body parts, and most of the women in that complex oblige the lustful, just want to get laid, men. This is young and old alike. 
Women, know your worth. If you aren’t worth having their last name, you shouldn’t give them your goodies. especially knowing that they are laying with other women who don’t know their worth. 
I know that I look at things from a different perspective and not all women know who they are, but if you don’t remember anything from this post, remember this: WOMEN, KNOW YOUR WORTH!


Women, Know Your Worth ~ B****

I just had to express my feelings on this, once again. It disturbs me when I hear females referring to themselves as “bitches”. It’s one thing for someone else to say it, but when YOU demean yourself by proudly proclaiming that you are a “bitch“, then I see that as a problem.

These young women whom I see and hear proudly proclaiming their “bitchiness” as a good thing, are opening the door for others to call them that and treat them as such. Not only are they SPEAKING this out of their mouths, they are PROUDLY proclaiming it on social media and then wonder why they can’t get a decent job or a decent man. They actually wonder why no REPUTABLE employer will follow-up with them or why they can’t get a good man. REALLY? 

Women, how do you expect men, other women, employers and others to respect you when you don’t respect yourself? Being a self-proclaimed “b****” should NOT be a badge of honor for any “self-respecting” woman. Ooops. That sounds like an oxymoron. What is so good about being known as a “b****”? Does it mean that you’re tough? Does it mean that wearing that title makes you one to be feared? What DOES it mean, for real?
There are ways to let people know that you won’t take any mess without you demeaning yourself by calling yourself a “b****”.

So women, WAKE UP!!! KNOW YOUR WORTH!!! Change your words and change your life.

Men, Know Your Worth – Sagging

It’s been a while but I just wanted to take the time to give a brief note of encouragement to the men out there.
One day, as I was riding up the escalator, there was a young man in front of me who had on a pair of jeans which were half way up and half way down. His undergarments were exposed and he appeared to have wanted to have it that way. He had a young woman with him and she seemed to be unaware of the fact that this guy was walking around with his pants half up and half down.
So, what’s the problem? Guys, it’s not cute seeing a man’s undergarments as he is trying to walk. Some of you look like you need to run to a toilet and “dump” while others look like at any moment, your pants are going to fall off. Why?
If the story is true that this fashion choice happened as a result of prisoners using that as a means to let other prisoners know that they were available for anal sex, is that something you want to present outside of prison? Are you trying to let general population know that you are available for anal sex?

Well, I can hear some of you say that it’s just a fashion statement. Ok, If that’s what you are trying to get across! However, in Philadelphia, it just seems like the thing to do. I’ve even seen some men walking abound with their pants down to the middle of their thighs.and a belt tightly bound so the pants won’t drop any further.
I’ve even seen some  men walking around with their young sons with THEIR pants hanging off of their butts. 

Men, I will respect you more with your pants up. Looking at your pants hanging off of your butt is a turn-off. I couldn’t even tell anyone how a man looks if he is walking around with his pants hanging off of his butt. 

Your worth is NOT IN YOUR butt.

Unfortunately, you could be a man of great character but just because you wear your pants off of your butt, it automatically lumps you in with the guys who are gang bangers, thieves, murderers, and those who hang on street corners selling drugs.

I realize this is my opinion and I am not trying to offend anyone but Men, Know Your Worth and please, PULL UP YOUR DARN PANTS.

Women, Know Your Worth, Part 2

Too many times, especially in the spring/summer, I find women (young and older), dressing to draw attention to themselves. Either their breasts are busting out of their clothing or the crack of their butt is exposed (couldn’t think of a more diplomatic way to say that) or they are showing off their on-purpose wedgie otherwise known as a thong. Some women even go as far as wearing “shorts” that are so short that it looks as if they are wearing undergarments.
It appears that most of these women are dressing this way so as to attract the attention of the opposite sex, but I am finding that many are dressing that way so as to attract the attention of female “HATERS”. This, women, is a problem.
We ought to be attracting attention because we are intelligent, nice and are of good character. Dressing immodestly would cause one to think that you are “easy”, “slutty”, a “one night stand”, or a “whore”. Some women get offended when anybody addresses them by those words, but as I have heard many times, “DRESS THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE ADDRESSED”. If you want to be addressed as slutty, a one night stand, a whore or a b****, then by all means continue to dress immodestly; however, if you want to be addressed as an intelligent, woman of good character, DITCH the booty shorts, cover the boobs and PLEASE wear pants that will cover your butt crack!!!  

Before anybody gets all upset and out of pocket, I have a daughter in her twenties and this is the same advice I would give to her. I minister to women who have low self esteem and I teach them to KNOW THEIR WORTH!!! Not because I think I have arrived, but because I want to see women RESPECTED but I can’t expect others to respect what isn’t respectable. 

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